In Defense of TSA’s Rudeness

You know what grinds my gears? People who are too selfish to follow simple rules designed to make everyone’s life easier.

At many airports now, they have multiple security check-lines. One is for the “Expert Traveler.” The sign at the start of that line basically says, “This is for people familiar with TSA procedures, have their routine down, and will have everything ready to go when they get to the front of the line.” Makes sense right?

The problem with this system is that it requires people to self-select. And it seems that people either can’t read or don’t care…

A few days ago I was in an airport security line when I hear the TSA employee call out, rather loudly, “You need to have your boarding pass out, your liquids and gels in a separate bag, laptops out of the case, and all metal off. You are in the expert lane – you should know this.”

My first thought was, “wow, that’s a little rude.”

My second thought was, “good for her!”

I know, this is dicey territory. I am big into polite courteous behavior and great customer service. On the other hand, I am also into people not doing stupid and selfish things.

You see, the expert line was shorter than the “casual traveler” line, so of course people walked up to the entrance and didn’t really care about what lane they were supposed to be in. They just jumped into whichever line would be best for them. That, by definition, is selfish. And I for one am glad that TSA called people out for that. I would not have minded if those people had been kicked to the back of the casual traveler line!

Don’t get me wrong; If a TSA worker had sounded rude or impatient because someone messed up the procedure in the casual line, I would have considered them out of line. But these people stepped up, raised their hand and said, “I deserve to be in the shorter faster line because I am familiar with how this works.” They deserve to be slapped around a bit.

That’s the challenge with self-regulated guidelines. People will take advantage and not care. We see it all the time:

  • People using “10 item or less” lanes when they clearly have more than 10 items
  • People puttering along in the left “fast” lane
  • People jumping way out of order when a new cashier opens up and says, “can I help who’s next?”
  • People who try to cut into an exit lane at the last minute so they can bypass the long line of traffic (thus messing up two lanes of traffic

I see two lessons here:

If You Want Proper Service, Be a Proper Customer

The minute you act selfish, rude, or inconsiderate, you forfeit the right to demand good service. I’m not saying that it’s a good idea for the business to respond in kind (it’s usually not) but if they do, well, you get what you deserve.

Decide When Good Service For One Rude Person is Outweighed by Bad Service to Many Others

I think this is the toughest customer service situation to deal with. You’ve been there: you’re standing in line and the person at the front is taking forever with endless questions and inane requests. The line backs up, and you start getting annoyed. This is a tough balance, because the person at the front of the line isn’t doing anything wrong; they just need a lot of help, and the establishment is usually right in being as attentive as possible.

BUT, when the offending party is not following the “rules,” so to speak, the situation changes. When a new cashier opens up and the person says, “I can help who’s next,” and someone who was eight spaces back jumps to the front of the new line, would you be offended if the cashier politely said, “excuse me sir, but I think that person was next?” I sure as heck wouldn’t. I would applaud them.

It is a tough line to walk, and you always need to maintain professionalism and courtesy, but I think more businesses could establish more goodwill by simply not letting the selfish people take advantage of the polite ones…

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The Immense Power of an Unsolicited Compliment

A couple of days ago an old friend sent me this email:

“I had to email you and tell you that I am loving your blogs. I really hope that you’re doing well and that the Motivational SmartAss is paying off not just for the sheer fun of it, but by making you very rich and very famous. I’m so glad you found your niche. My favorite part of getting on facebook is seeing the titles of your blogs: Lessons Learned from Liking Sheryl Crowe…come on… there is nothing more motivational or smartassier.”

I hadn’t spoken with her in a few months, and this wasn’t in response to anything I sent to her. It was a straight up, unsolicited, complimentary email sent for no other reason than to say, “hey, nice job.”

I have to tell you, simple as it was, it filled me with a serious bit of warm “aw shucks” feeling. It kinda made my day. And it probably only took her a minutes or two to write it up and send it over.

An unsolicited compliment (as opposed to one where the person is fishing for a compliment or where you are required to say something nice) is immensely powerful. We come across opportunities to deliver these everyday, yet we often don’t take the time to do so.

For example:

  • See a performer who does a great job (especially if they are in a smaller/sparsely attended venue)? Take a minute to tell them personally how much you enjoyed the show.
  • Have a friend who looks particularly good one day? Tell them you think so (do this with taste, people…)
  • Read a book or article that you enjoyed? Drop the writer a line.
  • Get awesome service at a store or restaurant? Say a few additional nice words beyond just, “thank you,” and “have a nice day.”
  • See a colleague do a great job on a presentation or project? Go out of your way to let them know (i.e. don’t just wait until you bump into them at lunch.
  • Someone have a blog you like and read regularly? Send them an email telling them how much you like it (as in my case)

The possibilities are endless. And while complimenting people you know is great and always appreciated, sometimes the most powerful effect you can have is when you compliment a stranger. They would never question the sincerity; friends may have to lie, but a stranger would never say something in the first place.

So why don’t we? There may be many reasons, but I can think of a few assumptions that we all make that stop us from passing on a nice word:

“They already know”

This is the most common one. Why bother to tell someone how awesome they are if they already know? Think again; people like to hear nice things, even if it’s only to reinforce what they already know. Besides, you have no way of knowing what they think. Maybe they don’t already know…

“I don’t have time”

Come on! We’re not talking about composing an epic poem in their honor. Five minutes to make a phone call, two minutes to send an email, or twenty seconds to walk up to someone and say, “wow, I thought you did an amazing job. That was great.” You have the time.

“It might embarrass them”

Again, we’re not talking about a major production. Don’t quiet down an entire restaurant so you can stand on the table and toast the good service you got. A simple, sincere, private compliment goes a long way and won’t really embarrass anyone.

“They won’t care”

Sometimes you may feel hesitant to walk up to someone and say, “nice job,” because you figure they won’t care. Maybe you are a total stranger, or maybe you are in a similar field but not nearly as far along as they are. Compliment them anyway. Trust me: as long as you deliver a short and sincere compliment (and don’t glob onto them like a love struck groupie) they’ll appreciate it.

Take a moment today to pass along an unsolicited compliment to someone. You very well just might make their day.

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NetFlix Stupidity, Part 2 (Being Outwitted by an Envelope)

Last week I wrote about how my experience with NetFlix could teach us all lessons we about letting go. Turns out, there is a part two to that story…

As I mentioned in that post, I had Disc 3 of Season 8 of the X-Files in my possession for just over a year. I finally decided to “let it go,” and sent the DVD back to NetFlix, unwatched. Then I wrote my blog post about it, and for some reason writing about the experience re-piqued my interest in watching the X-Files! Isn’t that always the way?

The NetFlix story goes on...

The NetFlix story goes on...

But no worries, I was happy with my decision. I also knew that I had the option of re-requesting disc 3 in the future, after I had received and watched the new discs that should be on their way.

Then things got interesting…

A day or two later, I check my mailbox and there is a NetFlix DVD in it. The DVD? “X-Files Season 8, Disc 3!”

“But Avish, how is that possible?? You just returned it!”

*sigh*

Well, it seems that the Motivational Smart Ass, who loves to point out the idiocy in the world, will from time to time succumb to a little idiocy of his own. You see, the way the NetFlix envelopes are designed, you have to rip off the top label (addressed to you) to get to the disc. Then when you put the disc back in the envelope, only the NetFlix address is visible. It’s really quite brilliant.

But I never even opened the X-Files disc in the first place! Seeing a sealed NetFlix envelope with the disc in it, I just dropped it into the mailbox. With my address still on label. So it got mailed back to me.

Here’s what’s interesting: guess what I did the day I received that disc? That’s right – I popped it in and watched an episode! Then, over the weekend, I watched the remaining three episodes on the disc!

So this disc, which I had had in my possession for over a year and procrastinated watching it while refusing to return it, got watched a scant 5 days after I decided to “let it go.” I am now eagerly anticipating watching disc 4.

The clever NetFlix envelope. Smarter than the Motivational Smart Ass? Perhaps. Perhaps. <br /> (Photo by Marit & Toomas Hinnosaar)

The clever NetFlix envelope. Smarter than the Motivational Smart Ass? Perhaps. Perhaps.
(Photo by Marit & Toomas Hinnosaar)


Sometimes letting something go can be just the thing you need to do to get re-energized and re-interested. I had that disc for a year and didn’t care. I let it go and suddenly found myself wanting to see it. When I got it back I tore through it in two days.

If you have something in your gut that you are struggling with that you know you should let go of but are holding onto out of fear, then you should really consider taking action and letting it go. It may very well find it’s way back into your life in a much more positive way. If not, letting go was the right decision in the first place.

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Business Lessons From People Who Stab Themselves

Stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid…

I came across this story recently about a man who couldn’t go to work at Blockbuster because he said he was stabbed. Sounds fair, right? “Being stabbed” has got to be pretty high on the list of acceptable reasons to miss work. Only there was one problem: He stabbed himself!

Come on, could working at Blockbuster really be so bad that it makes you want to stab yourself <br /> (Photo by strangelv)

Come on, could working at Blockbuster really be so bad that it makes you want to stab yourself
(Photo by strangelv)

That’s right, he stabbed himself. And not accidentally. Oh no, this rocket scientist stabbed himself because he didn’t want to go to work!

Can you even begin to fathom the thought process of a person who does this?!

“Hmm, I really don’t want to go to work today. But I have no personal days left, and if I try to call in sick they’ll know I’m faking. Hmm, what to do…? Wait a second…I know! Maybe I can’t call in sick, but I can call in stabbed!”

Of course, I left out the richest part of this story. To make sure no one questioned his story, he stabbed himself! Stabbed himself enough that he had to go to the emergency room and get stitches.

Perhaps I’m being foolish by attempting to inject a little logic into this story, but if you are going to skip a day of work, wouldn’t you want to come up with an alibi that didn’t involve you spending hours in a hospital?

Maybe it’s all that Denverian fresh air, or the high altitude. Or maybe it’s that some people just don’t get it. Whatever it is, there are some obvious business lessons here. Let’s take a look:

Think “Big Picture,” People!

Our hapless hero in this story put his focus in a very wrong place. If you are so unhappy with work that you are willing to stab yourself to get out of it, then you have a bigger issue than, “how can I get out work today?” Because guess what? Even if the plan worked, he’d have to go right back to work the nest day. Only this time with stitches. A better, big picture question could be, “how can I improve my life and work towards finding a job I actually love?”

The Business Lesson: Make sure the plans and solutions you are implementing are addressing big picture concerns, and not just short term symptoms. A quick fix is good in an emergency, but for real progress you need to dig in and take care of root problems.

Use More Creativity!

I have to admit, “stab myself,” is probably an idea that would be generated in a probably run brainstorming session on, “how can I get out of work.” The freedom to come up with stupid ideas is important to the creative process. At some point – before implementation – those ideas need to be evaluated. If the ideas you have aren’t good, keep creating.

The Business Lesson: The first idea may not be the best. Develop your creativity to generate a giant list of ideas so that you can select a good one.

Need a day off from work? Step 1: find knife. Step 2: Insert knife into leg. Wait, that doesn't sound right...<br /> (Photo by Donovan Govan)

Need a day off from work? Step 1: find knife. Step 2: Insert knife into leg. Wait, that doesn't sound right...
(Photo by Donovan Govan)

Any Plan That Involves Stabbing Yourself Probably Needs To Be Re-Thought!

‘Nuff said.

The Business Lesson: Don’t hurt yourself or your business in an attempt to get a quick gain. Examples of this are treating employees badly, being rude to customers, and taking advantage of customers to make sales. No long term good will come of it.

Think Plans Through!

The Li’l Genius in our story thought, “if I stab myself, I won’t have to go to work. Brilliant!” Then he stopped thinking. A little more thought – and really, just a very, teeny, tiny, miniscule amount more – would have made him realize, “hmm, then I’ll need to spend hours at the hospital getting stitches, so I’ll waste my day off. Plus it might hurt. Oh, and the police usually like to get involved when someone claims to have been attacked and stabbed by three men, so then I’ll need to lie to the police. And at the end of the day, I’ll still have to go back to work at Blockbuster. Maybe this isn’t such a good idea after all.”

A little thought. Think things through. Is that too much to ask?

The Business Lesson: Don’t let the initial excitement over a new idea cloud your ability to think through all the ups, downs, benefits, and consequences of implementation.

I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you are not planning on ever stabbing yourself to get out of a day of work. But the next time you think about engaging in some behavior that may have some self-destructive tendency to it, please take a moment to remember the lessons of our self-stabbing friend; it may keep you out of a lot of trouble in the long run!

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The Best Revenge is Good Living (Them Damned Yankees…)

It’s easy to hate. It’s easy to get angry. And occasionally, in the right context, it can be a little fun. But at the end of the day, nothing works as well as letting go and living well…

Here’s a simple sports fact: when your team loses you really want to hate the other team and all the players on it. You want to boo, make fun, taunt, and find even the tiniest little bit of info you can use to rip apart the people that had the audacity to deny your team the victory it so justly deserved.

Some players make it <strong>really</strong> easy for you to dislike them

Some players make it really easy for you to dislike them


(I’m not saying his attitude is correct or noble; we should all absolutely let go of these types of thoughts. But hey, they still happen)

Some players make it easy for us to mock and hate them. They live stupidly, give flame-inducing interviews, or simply break the law. Others, however, seem to brush it off and realize that simple good living is the best course of action.

The Yankees defeated the Phillies in the World Series this week. I wanted the Phillies to win, and when they lost, I certainly wanted to boo the “evil empire” that is the NY Yankees.

Then someone forwarded me a story about Joe Girardi, the manager of the Yankees, pulling over on the Cross County Parkway to help a woman who had been in a car crash. Astonishingly, this occurred just a few hours after he had won the World Series!

Joe Girardi <br /> Was: Dasher of Philadelphia hope<br /> Now: Hero and all around good guy

Joe Girardi
Was: Dasher of Philadelphia hope
Now: Hero and all around good guy


The report also says that he was the first to arrive on the scene and crossed three lanes of traffic to help. A few scant hours after one of, if not the, biggest events in his personal and professional life. At 2:45 in the morning! He stops to help someone out.

How do you muster any disdain for a person like that?

*sigh*

You can’t. And that’s why good living is the best course of action.

Fighting Fire With Fire Can Get You Burned

Fighting fire with fire can get you burned. Just ask Drew Barrymore.

Fighting fire with fire can get you burned. Just ask Drew Barrymore.


When someone wrongs you, is your first response to wrong them back? Argue back, insult them, talk behind their back, sabotage their career, or something worse? Do you follow through? Many people do, and feel justified because they were wronged first.

Usually that course of action fails because it does three things:

  1. It escalates the situation – Think your retort or brilliant will end the situation? Think again. Chances are no matter how right you think you are, no matter how brilliant your counter, no matter how clever your plan, chances are that you actions will only make the other party more mad and the situation will get worse.
  2. It gives them justification for why they were right in the first place – People have very limited vision. If you do something to them, that’s all they will focus on. They will ignore the countless times before that they wronged you. And now they will feel justified in anything they do.
  3. It makes you wrong – In the eyes of the other person; in the eyes of other people; in the eyes of the law. If you lash back you become wrong. You must concede the high ground, and are now trapped in a uselessly futile situation.

No, the best course of action, even when wronged, is to go on and live such a good awesome life that people find it hard to muster any kind of disdain for you. You may miss out on some of the short term gain of hurting someone else, but in the long run, it’s the only strategy that really works.

If a Yankees manager can make it hard for Phillies fans to hate him the day after the world series, why can’t you do the same. Make it hard for your enemies to hate you. Live a good life and leave the hate to the haters.

“If I do not accept your gift of anger, does it not still make it your own?”
-Buddha
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Lessons From Losing the World Series

Do you give up too soon? On your sports team? On yourself? Sadly, I learned last night that many people do…

The Philadelphia Phillies lost the World Series last night to the New York Yankees. It was a sad day for Philadelphians who were truly hoping for back to back work championships from the fightin’ Phils.

So close, and yet...

So close, and yet...

(Note to you Phillies fans so despondent over the loss that you are thinking of doing something stupid. read my post on the joys of being a sports hypocrite and let it go…)

I was disappointed to see the Phillies lose, but I was way more disappointed to read some of the Twitter and Facebook updates of fellow Phillies fans during the game. People were throwing in the towel while there was still plenty of game to be played.

In the third inning, with the Phillies down 4 to 1, someone Tweeted, “this game is over.” What?? There are nine innings in a baseball game. Nine long innings. A three run deficit with more than half the game to go is by no means insurmountable. Why the defeatist attitude?

You may say, “well I could tell by the way that they were playing that there was no way the Phils would win.” Perhaps. But you never know. That’s why they play all nine innings in baseball, the full 60 minutes in football, and all four quarters in basketball. ‘Cause the game ain’t over ’til it’s over.

Not much later, in the fifth inning, more people were posting status updates on how the Phillies were done. These were Phillies’ fans, mind you.

Hey, we’ll always have 2008, right?

Hey, we’ll always have 2008, right?

I know that in Philly it is pretty much the norm to boo or give up on your team when things are not going well. And frankly, I don’t care how exactly you choose to be a sports fan. My philosophy has always been that as long as there is game left to be played, there is hope. It may be slim, but there is always hope. You have to keep playing (and rooting) every second of every game.

The thing I really do care about, though, is how this attitude of giving up way too early when things go bad spills over into other areas of life. If you want to be a pessimistic sports fan, that’s one thing. But if you approach life with the same pessimism, well, that just sucks.

Here are three questions to see if “sports pessimism” is affecting other areas of your life.:

Do You Give Up Too Soon?

This is the real danger. Things get tough, so you give up. I recently posted an article about the importance of letting things go. Letting go is very different from giving up.

Things are never going to go 100% perfectly, and if something is truly worth doing, you will encounter obstacles along the way. If you throw in the towel at the first sign of trouble, you’ll never accomplish anything of note.

Do You Hold Back to “Not Get Your Hopes Up?”

This is a common attitude sports fans have. Especially Philadelphia fans, as we have encountered a lot of disappointment over the years. The funny thing is, our pain comes not from getting our hopes up, but in how we choose to respond when those hopes get smashed.

Yes, it is a choice! You can wallow in misery when things don’t work out, lamenting your own stupidity for getting your hopes up, or you can say, “whatever,” let it go, and commit to moving on the next game, project, opportunity, etc.

Getting your hopes up is a good thing! Increased hope leads to nervous energy, more fun and creativity, greater willingness to take risks, and a positive energy that can drive you forward. These are all things that can help you achieve your goals. Keeping your hopes low makes you hesitant, slow, and pessimistic. Not qualities of high achievers.

So get your hopes up, just develop and practice positive ways of dealing with disappointment when things don’t work out.

Do You Waste Time and Energy Being Negative Because it’s “Realistic?”

My favorite. Of course the Phillies doubters are reading this post thinking I am an idiot because they turned out to be “right.” Sure, hindsight is 20/20. But at the moment they expressed their defeat, they had no way of knowing how the game would turn out.

Here’s an interesting fact from a study done by Martin Seligman: Negative people are more realistic. They see things more accurately as they are than positive people. But the study also shows that Positive people are more successful and happier than their negative counterparts.

So, would you rather be realistic or happy and successful?

If you have trouble answering that question, step away from the computer, call a friend, and go have some fun – you sorely need it!

Life is too short to spend even one minute of it unnecessarily in a bad mood. Life will throw enough real curveballs your way; you don’t need to waste time and energy getting worked up over stupid things.

I take great pride in my ridiculous sports optimism. I have cheered on my basketball team even when they are down by 20 points with four minutes left to play. Why not?? What am I losing by doing this? Nothing. What am I gaining? Fun. Positive energy. Low blood pressure. All good things.

Realistic expectations have their place. You don’t want to go mortgage the house on some crazy business idea just because you are “thinking positive.” But in many situations, especially the day to day ones, you are doing yourself a disservice and wasting your precious life energy if you choose to take a “realistic” and negative approach.

The next time you’re watching a sports game and your team is losing badly, hold on to hope and keep cheering, even if it seems stupid. And the next time you are out there trying to achieve something and you encounter an obstacles, keep your hopes up and don’t give up. That may very well be the key to your success.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I have to go prepare to cheer my Eagles on their way to yet another NFC Championship game…

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Random Chewbaccaesque Humor

Short video on how to make noises like Chewbacca. I don’t know what’s the worst part:

  1. That this video exists
  2. That I actually took two minutes to try it
  3. That it kind of actually works.

Try it out and you tell me…

The Lesson

You’re kidding right? No lesson here, just some good ol’ fashioned procrastination supporting fun…

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NetFlix: Dream Killer…

netflixOk, maybe NetFlix doesn’t actually kill dreams, but I realized that the way I utilized my NetFlix membership this past year was the same way that many of us approach our dreams and goals. And that approach can be a dream killer.

I am NetFlix’s dream customer! Though I will sometimes go through 3, 6, or, on rare occasion, even 10 DVDs in a month, it is much more common for me to let the discs sit on my shelf for months before I get around to watching them.

A while ago, I decided that I would watch the entire 9-season run of “The X-Files” straight through, start to finish. I was zipping along quite nicely until I hit season 8 (the one without David Duchovny. Go figure). I got to disc 3 of that season, and then stalled. This is where my NetFlix problems began.

Disc 3 of X-Files Season 8 sat on my shelf for months. I didn’t think this was a problem because a) I intended to watch it eventually and b) I had two other discs that I was still watching and returning regularly.

The situation got more complicated when I returned one of my movies but forgot to update my NetFlix queue. Much to my dismay, I received Disc 4 of X-Files Season 8. *sigh*

Now I had another disc of a TV show I was putting off watching. A disc I could not watch until I watched the one I was putting off.

Did I return it? No of course not (that would have made sense). Instead, I told myself, “I’ll just watch them both soon and send them back.” As you can probably guess, this never happened.

No paranormal mystery here. Just a guy letting a little thing slip by...

No paranormal mystery here. Just a guy letting a little thing slip by...

The days went by, and finally, this past weekend, I committed to returning the X-Files DVDs. I went on the site to update my queue (no point in returning discs 3 and 4 only to get discs 5 and 6 back!). NetFlix lets you know what discs you have and when they shipped them to you. I am embarrassed to say that I had X-Files Season 8 Disc 3 in my possession for over one year! And I had disc 4 for about 4 months.

Sad as it was, I knew I couldn’t change the past. I updated my queue – putting movies I will actually watch on top – and dropped the movies off in the mailbox. This felt good. Almost cathartic. A wildly out of proportion sense of accomplishment washed over me…

Pathetic as my story is, I realized that there is a lot to be learned from my NetFlix/X-Files saga. The concept of holding on to things that we will “someday” use is one of the more damaging things to our overall happiness and success.

Here’s what I learned:

It’s the Little Things That Get You

The big negatives in life are easy to see. As such, we usually deal with them quickly. If I had a $200 monthly charge for something I was not using at all, I would quickly cancel it or start using it. At $17/month, NetFlix was an easy thing to ignore.

$17 may not be much, but month after month, it adds up. Moreover, there is a mental drain that every little distraction causes. Be it a wasted membership, a little too much clutter, a leaky faucet, etc. All of these little annoyances combine to drain a huge amount of mental energy from your happiness and goals.

Question: What little energy/money drainers are you allowing to persist in your life because they seem too small to worry about?

Let Go!

Letting go is hard to do. While I can understand the difficulty in letting go of something that you see or use everyday, what boggles the mind is the things we hold on to that we have never used, nor will we probably ever use! For some reason, we take comfort in just, “knowing it is there.”

Make sure you hold on to the big, important things in life. For the rest, decide whether you are holding on to something because it is really important or simply out of fear that you may need it “someday.”

Question: What are you holding on to that you need to let go of?

Letting Go Is Not Necessarily Permanent

Here’s the goofy thing about my NetFlix story: I could have returned the X-Files DVD months ago, and, if I later on wanted to watch it, I could simply have re-ordered it from NetFlix! Returning a NetFlix movie is not a permanent thing.

There are many things in life like that. We fear leaving an organization, spending less time with certain people, or taking a break from a business pursuit or hobby. But most of those things can be taken up again. Many of them will benefit from the break.

Question: What do you need to let go of that you are fooling yourself into thinking will be a permanent decision?

Good Intentions are Meaningless

I fully intended to watch those X-Files DVDs. I really did! And yet, every time I would pop on the TV, I would have no desire to put the disc in. My “good intentions,” led me to hold on to a disc for over a year…

Good intentions are everywhere, and are relatively meaningless. It’s not what you intend to do, it’s what you actually do that matters.

Are you intending to write a novel, start a business, take up a hobby, start exercising, etc.? Good for you. No one cares. Go do something.

Question: What have you been “intending” to do for a while that you need to just get off your butt and start doing?

No One Intends to Put Things Off For a Year

If you intentionally put something off for a year, that is the equivalent of letting it go, and that is good thing. Most of us don’t do that.

Instead, we put things off a day, or a week, or until, “things quiet down.” Unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way. Life rarely gets more quiet, even after the big project is done, the holidays end, the kids go to school, etc.

I didn’t plan on delaying that NetFlix return for a year. I just put it off one day at a time. Before I knew it, a whole year had passed.

Not a big deal when we’re just talking about NetFlix movies. But it’s a huge deal when it relates to our goals, dreams, and overall life happiness.

How many people do you know who stay at a job they hate “just a little bit longer,” only to wake up 20 years later and find that half of their life has simply passed them by…?

To quote one of my favorite books, “The War of Art,” by Stephen Pressfield: “We don’t tell ourselves, ‘I’m never going to write my symphony.’ Instead we say, ‘I’m going to write my symphony; I’m just going to start tomorrow.'”

Question: What have you been putting off day after day, week after week, month after month, that you can start working on TODAY?

I am now committed to making the most of my NetFlix queue. I will quickly watch DVDs I get and I will return movies that I am putting off watching. Most importantly, I will take the NetFlix lessons and apply them to the much bigger areas of my life. I truly hope that you will do the same…

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Does Your Customer Service Stink?

I recently posted about some bad customer service I received waiting for a tow truck.

This may make you wonder, “hmm, do I deliver great customer service or does my service stink?” Here’s a quick questionnaire that may help you figure it out:

  • If you stop caring about the customer once the sale is made, your customer service stinks
  • If you don’t use common sense, your customer service stinks
  • If you don’t let the customer know when you screw up/are about to run late/are about to go over budget, your customer service stinks
  • If you’ve ever uttered the phrase, “who cares, we’ve got their money,” your customer service stinks
  • If you screw up and don’t offer some kind of apology (and ideally compensation or discount), your customer service stinks.
  • If your family tree does not fork, you might be a redneck (whoops! That’s not what this post is about…)
  • If you think that the fact that you’re “having a bad day,” justifies rude behavior, your customer service stinks
  • If you like to say, “that’s not my job,” without following up with, “but let me get you someone who can help you,” your customer service stinks
  • If you think it’s ok to take a call or talk on a cell phone while interacting with a real live customer, your customer service stinks

By the way, if you don’t do these things but you are a manager or business owner who’s people do, then guess what? Your customer service stinks.

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Goal Achievement – Daylight Savings Style!

(Photo by Lecates)

(Photo by Lecates)

What is your first reaction when things throw your routine off? If you are like most, your reaction is to try to get back to your routine. But there may be a better way…

This past Sunday was the day that most of the U.S. “falls back” to non-daylight savings time. For some reason that I am not sure of (though I have heard explanations ranging from farming benefits to war efforts to electricity consumption), here in the U.S. we move our clocks forward and hour in April and then back an hour at the end of October.

For most of us, that pretty much only means one extra hour of sleep for a few days until their bodies adapt to the one hour shift. Most people seem to shift their clocks back an hour but leave their alarms and schedules the same.

What a waste!

Do you ever complain about not having enough time in the day to get everything done? Do you have a goal or dream you have been putting off because you can never find the time? Would an hour a day help?

You moved your clock back an hour – why not move your alarm back an hour too? When it goes off, your body will think it is the same time you have been getting up for the past 6 months. Get out of bed and take that new hour to work on some long term goals you have been putting off. This is the perfect time to make that switch since your body won’t be working against you!

Our natural response when our routine is disrupted is to try get things back the status quo as quickly as possible. Great improvisers, when their routines are disrupted, look for ways to make things better than the status quo. Don’t seek a return to the form that was not serving you as well as it could. Find a way to make it better!

Try it today (if you wait, your body will already be adapting to the time shift). Use this “routine disruption,” to your advantage and find that lost time you have been looking for!

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